Many men around America celebrate Father's Day every June, but for some the day meant to honor them can be a bitter pill to swallow. In Illinois and elsewhere, fathers of the children of divorce are having to fight to prove their value as parents. For one Illinois group, this has culminated in a tireless effort to redefine what it means to be a good dad when it comes to child custody.
Dating after a divorce is difficult for anyone, but it is especially complicated for single people with children. Introducing a new person into their lives can be difficult for all parties involved. Marriage professionals in Illinois and elsewhere have suggested that joint custody, when combined with other strategies, can help mitigate the effects of mom or dad starting a new life.
One of the most frightening experiences during a child custody battle is the thought of the other parent taking the child to another country in order to avoid surrendering custody. While this does not often occur, some parents may eventually face this battle. Illinois parents involved in a child custody dispute where this occurs may wish to ensure they are aware of their legal rights so they can better prepare for what is to come.
A Marine who lost child custody after an Afghanistan deployment has recently had the ruling overturned in his favor. The man and his wife divorced only a year after the birth of their child, and they shared custody. The Marine had primary custody, allowing him to choose the school district the child attended. Once he deployed, child custody was granted to the mother with the understanding it would revert back to him once he returned home. Illinois military parents may commiserate with the plight of this man because they may have experienced the same issues.
A common question for Illinois parents is about when their children will be old enough to choose who they will live with. State laws concerning child custody vary, but some states allow children as young as 10 to express their desire for one parent over the other. This preference could be given weight during a custody trial and result in the non-custodial parent being given child custody. However, issues like this can also affect child support, encouraging the parents to fight in court for custody of the child.
Illinois parents can be well aware of the stress involved in a child custody battle, especially if the separation from the other parent turns bitter. In such cases, it can cause fear when it comes time for the other parent to have custody of the children. Many times the fear may be unfounded, but occasionally incidents occur where child custody issues are serious and potentially dangerous.
Illinois parents in the midst of a child custody battle know the financial and emotional effects it can have on a family. Most parents will love their children and wish to be with them as much as possible. However, when a divorce occurs, parents can seemingly become completely different people and when this occurs the children involved can suffer. Children can be extremely perceptive when it comes to such matters, and know when the atmosphere within the home becomes unhealthy. To minimize the effects of a child custody battle, parents can do several things.
Technology can be wonderful for Illinois parents who are trying to juggle child custody. However, recent research shows that some parents may be using social media and technology in ways that can actually harm or manipulate their children. The research examined the communication habits of 49 couples, and the results suggest that those who were involved in a bitter divorce or child custody dispute tended to use technology as a weapon, by limiting access to the kids or even denying they received messages from their ex.
Even after an Illinois divorce is over, child custody battles can still result. A mother accused of sexualizing her daughter is embroiled in a custody fight over her decision to allow her daughter to compete in the pageant circuit. The woman garnered nationwide attention when she allowed her daughter to dress up as Dolly Parton; as a result, the little girl's father is now requesting full child custody.
Families in Illinois and nationwide who have gone through the process of adoption are aware of the joy it can bring. For some families though, adoption can bring lengthy court battles. One family has scored a victory in the courts recently. The young boy now has a chance to grow up with a family who loves him and with whom he has been living for several years.